The 5 Reasons Why You Are Still Struggling With Spirituality And How to Fix It
Where were you first introduced to Spirituality?
Answer: You must look back at that first impression.
This is an important question because this will be your first impression and first impressions last.
Most people who grew up in a religious home would have been brought up with some type of spirituality. Religion is considered in broad terms spirituality, though I would debate that and go on further to say they are totally different, in which case it’s probably why you have struggled.
Most people who have had some spiritual/Religious teaching would have learnt this from their parents or the school they attended. Most schools have religious teaching, and in general we have a huge population of Religious people, so parents are the obvious source. Now when I speak of Religion I am talking across the board, all Christian faith and non Christian faith teachings. I am talking orthodox teachings, what ever those teachings may be.
So think back and find the place where you first heard about spirituality.
What were you taught?
How did it make you feel when these words were first spoken to you.
Was it fear driven? This is another important factor, was it fear driven?
· Believe this or you go to Hell
· Do this or you go to Hell
· Behave this way or you will be punished
· Conform or you will be excommunicated
· Be Submissive or be punished
When you are a child, fear driven language is used to get you to conform to a certain behaviour, (Neuro Linguistic programming) this can have a devastating impact on you as an adult. This is programming and conditioning and to break this cycle of embedded fear is difficult.
As a child we are so impressionable, the beliefs systems we are taught as children will underlay our belief systems as we get older, So You must look back at that first impression.
What does spirituality mean to you?
Answer: look at what spirituality gives you truly, is it companionship of others, or is it food for thought for your own personal pondering?
The Church Community.
What is it inside of you that calls you to spirituality?
Is it the community spirit of a church and the companionship of like minded people.
Is it the gathering of people who have the same set of belief systems and because of this they are more trustworthy?
Would it be the same feeling if you joined a gym and had a community of people there that had like minded information and interests as you?
Is it something very personal and intimate where it does not require others to be involved?
It is food for thought simply for pondering on?
What is it that you struggle with about Spirituality?
Answer: Find the programme you have running, look at your belief systems, and you will find that could be the issue.
Time to Reflect.
Why are you struggling with what you believe?
What are you questioning?
When something obviously doesn’t feel right to you, you are required to investigate.
If you are struggling with the concept of your own belief system than you need to change what you believe.
Somewhere you have learnt something that goes against your insightful intuition. This is a time you need to be totally honest with yourself regardless of consequences.
If you are struggling with spirituality you have a program running that is a conditioned message that must be looked at.
You may find once you dig deeper and find the source of this struggle, you will have a whole new view on spirituality. Don’t be afraid of change, find the programme that is running and look at it closely.
Is spirituality something you really need?
Answer: discard what you don’t need.
Throw It Out.
Have you considered that your beliefs may not be your own, I am serious, have you asked yourself why is spirituality important to me?
What do I get from my beliefs?
how does it benefit my life?
Theses questions need answers and you need to be sure about them.
Are you struggling with imposed religious beliefs, and it is causing conflict in your life, can you live without it?
If the answer is yes than discard your religious beliefs, let the old fall away and bring in something new that is uplifting and inspiring, holding on to something old that serves no purpose is a wast of time and energy, and whats more it’s stopping you from moving forward. Discard what you don’t need.
Remember life is all about flowing, so let change flow through you, let new things come and old things go. You are learning new things every single day, monitor you thoughts and feelings and only absorb things that are good for you on all levels.
How does spirituality make you feel?
Answer: Analyse how accommodating your spirituality is to the rest of your life, does it support you?
Lastly but not least how does spirituality really make you feel.
I would hope that it makes you feel awesome, if not, why not?
If you go through the five steps of looking within to find the answers you should by now know the answer to this question.
Spirituality is an extension of who you are as a human being. It should lift you, comfort you and be there as a leaning pole when things get tough.
It should be unconditional, spirituality is not punishment, it is not judging, it is not controlling,
Spirituality should be insightful, meaningful, and loving.
It should be accepting unconditionally, it should be your rock.
So stop to analyse how accommodating your spirituality is to the rest of your life, does it support you?
Spirituality reaches out to each and every one of us in the hope that we will understand what it truly means.
Spirituality is the melody, the sound of our own voice, a voice not yours, but of you.
Spirituality is about creativity, freedom, wholeness, unconditional love, freedom to be individual, It is enlightening, intuitive, compassionate. It is all we can be, emotionally, physically, mentally and more.
If your view of spirituality is different, than your belief system is probably religious based not spiritual, and yes there is a big difference.
Think about it.