How Does Your Neuro Linguistic Programming Affect Your Relationships?
If you and I were to hear a conversation, but both of us had interpreted that conversation totally differently why is that?
It’s Programming.
Two People Hearing and Seeing The Same Conversation Differently.
Blinded sight or deaf hearing is something we have all suffered from, and I say suffered from because it is like an illness it holds us back from seeing or hearing what we need to see and hear.
How many times we might see something, read something and passed it off, and then suddenly we read it again and it all seems to make perfect sense. why does that happen?
Something changed within our thinking to now allow that information to come to us, what changed? We looked at that article 2 months ago and thought it was crap but now you seem to read it and suddenly it speaks to you.
It’s because you have had a shift in your thinking which comes about by how you sense the world. Our thinking has to change in order to let new things in.
You could have all the answers right there in front of you yet until you change your Neuro Linguistic programming you won’t see or hear a thing. It seems how we sense the world has a huge affect on our emotions and behaviours on a unconscious level.
An excellent Read is this document below, because of copyright I can not put the link here, but you can find it by searching what I have below.
What Neuro-Linguistic Programming Means by Romilla Ready and Kate Burton Programming for Dummies, 2nd Edition.
Blinded sight or deaf hearing is something we have all suffered from, and I say suffered from because it is like an illness it holds us back from seeing or hearing what we need to see and hear.
How many times we might see something, read something and passed it off, and then suddenly we read it again and it all seems to make perfect sense. why does that happen?
Something changed within our thinking to now allow that information to come to us, what changed? We looked at that article 2 months ago and thought it was crap but now you seem to read it and suddenly it speaks to you.
It’s because you have had a shift in your thinking which comes about by how you sense the world. Our thinking has to change in order to let new things in.
You could have all the answers right there in front of you yet until you change your Neuro Linguistic programming you won’t see or hear a thing. It seems how we sense the world has a huge affect on our emotions and behaviours on a unconscious level.
An excellent Read is this document below, because of copyright I can not put the link here, but you can find it by searching what I have below.
What Neuro-Linguistic Programming Means by Romilla Ready and Kate Burton Programming for Dummies, 2nd Edition.
Senses.
“Neuro is about your neurological system. NLP is based on the idea that we experience the world through our senses and translate sensory information into thought processes, both conscious and unconscious. Thought processes activate the neurological system, which affects physiology, emotions and behavior.
“Neuro is about your neurological system. NLP is based on the idea that we experience the world through our senses and translate sensory information into thought processes, both conscious and unconscious. Thought processes activate the neurological system, which affects physiology, emotions and behavior.
Language.
Linguistic refers to the way human beings use language to make sense of the world, capture and conceptualise experience, and communicate that experience to others. In NLP, linguistics is the study of how the words you speak influence your experience.
Communicate.
Programming draws heavily from learning theory and addresses how we code or mentally represent experience. Your personal programming consists of your internal processes and strategies (thinking patterns) that you use to make decisions, solve problems, learn, evaluate, and get results. NLP shows people how to recode their experiences and organise their internal programming so they can get the outcomes they want”.
Linguistic refers to the way human beings use language to make sense of the world, capture and conceptualise experience, and communicate that experience to others. In NLP, linguistics is the study of how the words you speak influence your experience.
Communicate.
Programming draws heavily from learning theory and addresses how we code or mentally represent experience. Your personal programming consists of your internal processes and strategies (thinking patterns) that you use to make decisions, solve problems, learn, evaluate, and get results. NLP shows people how to recode their experiences and organise their internal programming so they can get the outcomes they want”.
Moving forward..
In order for you to allow new ideas and thoughts to come through you, you have to unload the programming that has stopped you from moving forward. How do we do this?
First you need to understand that a change has to take place, once you admit that, you are half way there.
The most difficult thing for all of us to do, is to survive being out of our comfort zone, but in saying that being out of your comfort zone can be exciting and very liberating. Once you realize that you’re still here and nothing bad happened, you will stretch your comfort zone that little bit more everyday until finally exciting and liberating adventures becomes your comfort zone.
In order for you to allow new ideas and thoughts to come through you, you have to unload the programming that has stopped you from moving forward. How do we do this?
First you need to understand that a change has to take place, once you admit that, you are half way there.
The most difficult thing for all of us to do, is to survive being out of our comfort zone, but in saying that being out of your comfort zone can be exciting and very liberating. Once you realize that you’re still here and nothing bad happened, you will stretch your comfort zone that little bit more everyday until finally exciting and liberating adventures becomes your comfort zone.
Adventure.
Lets take a very serious example:
How Does Your Neuro Linguistic programming Effect Your Relationships?
A woman who is in an abusive relationship, she knows what is going on is wrong, yet she keeps making excuses for her partners behaviour because she can’t see the role she is playing by allowing this behaviour to continue.
She has been programmed to feel unimportant and replaceable. She has been made to feel she is responsible for the beatings because she causes the anger which in turn allows the abusive reaction by her partner.
Lets take a very serious example:
How Does Your Neuro Linguistic programming Effect Your Relationships?
A woman who is in an abusive relationship, she knows what is going on is wrong, yet she keeps making excuses for her partners behaviour because she can’t see the role she is playing by allowing this behaviour to continue.
She has been programmed to feel unimportant and replaceable. She has been made to feel she is responsible for the beatings because she causes the anger which in turn allows the abusive reaction by her partner.
Negative Programming.
This drills deeper insecurities that keep this woman in an abusive situation. Not until one day suddenly something changes, what that change is will be different for everyone.
This woman has a break through in thinking, she has disconnected the programming and she decides to do something about the situation she is in.
Only she can change the circumstances, when she sees this, she leaves, she stops the cycle.
This drills deeper insecurities that keep this woman in an abusive situation. Not until one day suddenly something changes, what that change is will be different for everyone.
This woman has a break through in thinking, she has disconnected the programming and she decides to do something about the situation she is in.
Only she can change the circumstances, when she sees this, she leaves, she stops the cycle.
Re-Programming.
Once the negative programming has fallen away, this woman realizes that she is a beautiful, warm caring human being who deserves like everyone else to have a loving, healthy relationship.
Her comfort Zone had been fuelled with negative reinforcement that she believed to be true, not until a change in her thinking could this woman for-fill her potential.
Now I realize this is a heavy example but it’s a good one. It reinforces to us the importance of how we see the world and ourselves. It hits home to see how programming can have such an effect on our behaviours.
So Neuro Linguistic programming starts with our senses, sends it on to our thoughts, activate the neurological system, which affects physiology, emotions and behaviour.
How Does Your Neuro Linguistic programming Effect Your Relationship?
The NLP communication model quoted from dummies.com neurolinguistic-programming
Once the negative programming has fallen away, this woman realizes that she is a beautiful, warm caring human being who deserves like everyone else to have a loving, healthy relationship.
Her comfort Zone had been fuelled with negative reinforcement that she believed to be true, not until a change in her thinking could this woman for-fill her potential.
Now I realize this is a heavy example but it’s a good one. It reinforces to us the importance of how we see the world and ourselves. It hits home to see how programming can have such an effect on our behaviours.
So Neuro Linguistic programming starts with our senses, sends it on to our thoughts, activate the neurological system, which affects physiology, emotions and behaviour.
How Does Your Neuro Linguistic programming Effect Your Relationship?
The NLP communication model quoted from dummies.com neurolinguistic-programming
Reaction.
“The NLP communication model is based on cognitive psychology and was developed by Richard Bandler and John Grinder. According to the NLP communication model, when someone behaves in a certain way (their external behaviour), a chain reaction is set up within you (your internal response), which in turn causes you to respond in some way (your external behaviour), which then creates a chain reaction within the other person (their internal response), and the cycle continues”.
Programming is such a crazy thing, we all have our own programmes running, like our own personalised software. The software is uniquely ours because it has been designed from your experiences by your subconscious.
“The NLP communication model is based on cognitive psychology and was developed by Richard Bandler and John Grinder. According to the NLP communication model, when someone behaves in a certain way (their external behaviour), a chain reaction is set up within you (your internal response), which in turn causes you to respond in some way (your external behaviour), which then creates a chain reaction within the other person (their internal response), and the cycle continues”.
Programming is such a crazy thing, we all have our own programmes running, like our own personalised software. The software is uniquely ours because it has been designed from your experiences by your subconscious.
Self Introspection.
The only way from my point of view to break through programming is something I call Self Introspection (looking at ones life through clear lenses).
We constantly give our power away by thinking that our happiness depends on other people and external circumstances well that is not true.
People bring “Purpose” to our lives but happiness comes from within, it comes from a source of self discovery.
Listen to what your voice is telling you, realize that the words you speak influence your experience. It’s time for some Self Introspection. Take the NLP Communication Model, you can clearly see how relationships function just by looking at this very basic structure.
· Your partners external behaviour effects your internal response…
· Your internal response in turn effects their external behaviour…
Does this look familiar? It should it’s how we all communicate.
Now change the programme and make it work better for you.
The only way from my point of view to break through programming is something I call Self Introspection (looking at ones life through clear lenses).
We constantly give our power away by thinking that our happiness depends on other people and external circumstances well that is not true.
People bring “Purpose” to our lives but happiness comes from within, it comes from a source of self discovery.
Listen to what your voice is telling you, realize that the words you speak influence your experience. It’s time for some Self Introspection. Take the NLP Communication Model, you can clearly see how relationships function just by looking at this very basic structure.
· Your partners external behaviour effects your internal response…
· Your internal response in turn effects their external behaviour…
Does this look familiar? It should it’s how we all communicate.
Now change the programme and make it work better for you.
