Respect and empathy go hand in hand.
Having empathy for another is knowing what to say and what not to say at the right time.
It's about having thought and compassion for another human being and their position in the world.
We don't all think the same, we all process our emotions differently but essentially at the end of the day we all know the emotions connected with being hurt.
Hurt comes from Anger that's a fact, so if someone hurts you, it comes from a place of their hurt whether they realize it or not, their hurt was created by anger and so the pattern continues over and over.
In relationships Respect is a major part of a successful marriage or partnership. Empathy is just as important.
Many people find themselves saying or doing things in the heat of the moment, regretful things that they would other wise not have said. This is something that has divided couples and split marriages for as long as time itself.
When you have something to discuss with your partner and you know it's a topic of heated discussion in the pass, pick your moment carefully. Hopefully you know your partners habits and routines well enough to know when the best time is. Don't do it for example, the minute they walk in the door from work, don't do it when they are watching their favourite sports Chanel, don't do it when the kids need baths and put to bed. Plan your time, respect your partner enough to know that if you address the topic in the correct way they will have time in their moment to respond with thought not in hast, this way the discussion can take place with two calm, rational people who are finding a solution to a problem.
Relationships are not about: what can I get... this is how I feel, this is what I want from you.
they are about : what can I give? how do you feel? What can I do for you?
In giving and knowing how the other feels will give clarity to your own position in a relationship and both will have a foundation to work upon that is solid and trustworthy.